I have been extremely vulnerable the last couple days about blogging and I decided it's time to just get it out in the open and clear it off my chest.
I love blogging! It brings a sense of fulfillment to my life outside of being a Mother and that is something that I really need in my life. Things have seemed to be going quite well for me with blogging until a couple nights ago right before bed I got my very first hate comment...Shrug!..Sigh... It wasn't one of those "I hate your blog" kind of comments but rather the "Shame on you for not citing a source when you should have" kind of comments. Yes, the word shame was actually used in the comment and it spiraled in my mind ALL NIGHT LONG! I would be lying if I didn't tell you that at first I was really mad about it. First, the comment came from a no-reply blogger which left me absolutely no way to reach out to this person via email. Second, this person doesn't have their blog listed on their Profile so I have absolutely no way of even finding them and finding the post that I should have cited. Lastly, though I was and am completely guilty for not citing the blog where I saw the idea, I have never been able to find said blog to give a correct source. The source I have is a Pin on Pinterest the leads to an errored page on a cricut.com website, and every other pin for the same image goes to that errored page. (Note to self: Next time, just source the Pin!!)
So despite my feelings of anger which, to my benefit, I feel are very valid reasons to feel frustrated, I decided to put myself in their shoes. I have been there people...I have been on the other end of this spectrum visiting a blog that either didn't give me credit for a craft that was my idea or did a poor job at giving credit (like I saw this craft on this one blog, instead of actually stating my blog name). I have even been to blogs that completely re-used my tutorials even though I strongly say in my disclosure that I don't want them to do that. It sucks being on that end! It sucks feeling like someone else got all the credit for your idea!
It has left me wondering, how many other mistakes have I made? How many other people have I offended? Should I go through all of my over 300 posts to make sure I didn't do anything wrong? How do I make sure I don't make a mistake again?? This my friends, is the cruel side of blogging. If you get yourself wrapped in it, blogging will no longer feel fun anymore. If you get caught up in spending all your time being angry about who stole your idea, or who is getting credit for your idea, or worried about who you are going to offend, then why even blog? The cold hard truth is that all of us craft bloggers get our inspiration from one way or another. Whether it's the illustrations out of a popular children's book, a magazine or book, someone else's craft blog or Pinterest, you are more than not taking someone else's idea and putting your own spin on it.
And can we please mention the fact that if you are displaying your stuff on the World Wide Web, isn't that an open invitation for people to make your craft. Your blog post is saying, "Hey, look what I did....This is how you can make it too!"
Instead of focusing on who "stole" your idea, I think it should be a celebration of who loved and embraced your idea enough to make it themselves. Seeing that others are making and enjoying what you created is the JOY in blogging. It is what makes me want to keep creating! For that reason, I want to thank you as a blogging community. THANK YOU for continually inspiring me through your awesome crafts and fantastic pins on Pinterest!! Thank you for anyone who has loved my crafts enough to re-create them with your children or students or grandchildren. (In no way am I saying that it's ok to just steal people's ideas as your own. That's not ok people!)
Since blogging is this virtual World we sometimes forget that there are very real people behind the scenes. We all have strengths and weaknesses and we all have very real problems in our lives...Blogging is something we love and enjoy but it doesn't define who we really are. If we really knew each other on a personal level, if we really knew the face and person behind the blog, I have a hard time believing we would be so hard on each other...We are all going to make mistakes blogging and that's ok. It is human nature!
And since I have no other way of contacting them...
Dear Trent Family,
Please accept this as my sincere and open apology for not giving you credit when credit was due. I honestly, whole-heartedly feel terrible about it. If by some miracle you are reading this, please email me your blog address so I can fix my mistake (firstname.lastname@example.org). I hope my failure has not made you feel hatred toward me. I really do want to make things right.